Make Someone Feel Better Via Text Message (2)

Making Your Crush Feel Better

1   Don't exploit the opportunity. You can use this time to show someone you care about his or her feelings, and you genuinely want what's best. However, don't take it as an opportunity to ask someone out at a vulnerable moment when his or her judgment might be compromised. Try to act with the best intentions and seek to comfort this person above all else.

2    Be as supportive as you would be for a good friend. Listen carefully, take his or her side, and don't say things like "I told you so" or "Well, it's kind of your own fault." Keep the golden rule in mind - how would you want someone to treat you in this situation?

3Lift the mood with a subtle compliment. A nice compliment will make most people smile at least a little bit. Consider these tips:

   Time it right. Don't awkwardly jam a compliment into the conversation when your crush is in the middle of explaining why he or she is upset. Instead, wait until the issue has died down a bit, or your crush seems tired of discussing it. This is the right moment to turn the conversation around and try to make it uplifting.

    Don't be too obvious or crude. Now is probably not the time to focus a compliment on how great your crush's body is, or how much you want to date him or her. Instead, compliment something you admire about your crush's personality or skills. You'll be communicating that you care about the person, not just the physical traits. Something like "I really admire how you've handled this situation. You're an incredibly strong person" or "I can't understand how anyone would turn down someone as kind and beautiful as you" would be appropriate.

    Plan to end the exchange shortly after the compliment. You don't want the conversation to stall or go downhill after your compliment, or the effect won't be as meaningful. Know when to bow out. After he or she responds to the compliment, start exiting.

4   Offer to continue providing support. Before you end the conversation, saying something like "Text me again if you still need to talk" or "Can I check up on you tomorrow?" sets you up to continue the interaction later. It also shows him or her that you're willing to follow-up and make sure the situation is resolved.

5   End with a cute send-off (optional). Instead of just saying "bye" at the end of the conversation, you can say something a little cuter. Try "I hope your dreams are sweeter than your day was!" or "Have an awesome afternoon. I can't wait to talk to you again later," or something along those lines, for a more creative sign-off that might make the other person smile a bit.